Loving a Daughter God's Way -Tips from Granny

Have you ever dreamed of having a daughter? Have you imagined dressing her in beautiful clothes, styling her hair with bows and ribbons, and watching her twirl in her little shoes?

It is a tender picture. Yet beyond the outward beauty, have you ever wondered how God wants parents to love their daughters?

Daughters are special blessings from God. Though the mother–daughter relationship can sometimes be complicated, it does not have to be. God’s blessing within my daughter has brought me great joy and comfort. Of course, not every moment has been easy. There have been ups and downs, but through it all, God has worked everything together for good (Romans 8:28).

In this article, we will explore what it means to love your daughter God’s way.

You will gain insight into how daughters can bring joy when trained in the ways of the Lord, and how to “dress them up” both inwardly and outwardly.

Dressing Your Daughter Inwardly and Outwardly

It is a good thing to dress our daughters beautifully. As parents, we naturally want them to look and feel their best. But the outward appearance is not the main thing we should be concerned about.

We must also help them to be clothed inwardly, with holiness, righteousness, and the character that honors God. This includes teaching them to respect authority, show kindness to others, and do all things for God’s glory.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6, KJV)

This scripture applies to daughters as much as to sons. Training a child in the way they should go is an expression of love. It means teaching them to love God, to live according to His Word, and to grow in holiness and humility.

True Beauty Comes from Within

“Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For ye are like unto whited sepulchers, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men’s bones, and of all uncleanness.” (Matthew 23:27–28, KJV)

This passage reminds us that outward beauty alone is not enough. What matters most is inward purity.

As parents, we should guide our daughters to focus on the beauty of holiness rather than external appearance. Outward adornment fades, but the inward beauty of a heart that loves God lasts forever.

Loving and Correcting with Godly Wisdom

When parents love and care for their daughters according to God’s Word, they can experience true joy and harmony in their relationship. Loving a child means more than dressing her up and showing her off. It means guiding her toward God’s truth and correcting her in love when needed.

Correction is part of love, but it should be done with care and balance. Over-chastening can lead to rebellion, while no correction at all leads to foolishness. God gives us a clear pattern for discipline in His Word.

“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?... Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” (Hebrews 12:7–11, KJV)

Parents should not display false or fearful love for their children, resulting in refusing to correct them. Discipline, when done with love, helps shape a child’s character, teaching holiness, kindness, righteousness, and self-control.

Clothed in Righteousness

“I will greatly rejoice in the Lord, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for He hath clothed me with the garments of salvation, He hath covered me with the robe of righteousness.” (Isaiah 61:10, KJV)

In the same way, we should teach our daughters to clothe themselves in righteousness.

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array, but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.” (1 Timothy 2:9–10, KJV)

It is good for our daughters to look beautiful outwardly, but far more important for them to be beautiful inwardly. The most radiant beauty is found in a gentle and godly spirit.

Preparing Her for God’s Purpose

“And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my Spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy… and also upon the servants and upon the handmaids in those days will I pour out my Spirit.” (Joel 2:28–29, KJV)

God has a divine purpose for every daughter. He is preparing them to carry His Spirit and His message to the world. He is not focused on outward beauty, but on the heart that is ready to receive His Spirit.

Loving your daughter God’s way means preparing her for her spiritual future. Train her in the things that please God, nurture her spiritual growth, and teach her to walk in righteousness. The beauty of this world will fade, but the things of God will remain forever.

A Prayer for Parents

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the gift of daughters. Teach us to love them Your way, with patience, discipline, grace, and truth. Help us to train them in righteousness and to nurture their inward beauty. May they grow to love You deeply, walk in Your ways, and give You glory all the days of their lives.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

When parents love their daughters God’s way, they experience the joy of seeing them become women of purpose, clothed in strength and dignity. What a beautiful thing it is to know that God is working in and through our daughters, shaping them for His glory.

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)